Posts Tagged ‘Audra’

It’s a common knee jerk reaction that birthdays in Islam = haraam.  In fact if you Google “birthdays Islam,” this is the first thing you get. 

So, many new converts, encouraged to go hardcore and do EVERYTHING in Islam the second they convert, choose to give up birthdays (along with Christmas, Halloween, nail polish, pork, music, movies, tv, their pet dog Muffy, their non-Muslim relatives (God forbid they die, b/c you ain’t going to Nana’s funeral now), Skittles, Starburst and every other questionably haraam candy, Crest toothpaste, rice crispy treats, photographs etc, etc, etc, omg the list goes on forever).

But wait.  How do we know birthdays are not “part of this matter of ours (i.e., Islam)?” Birthdays are a part of American culture, and American culture isn’t intrinsically haraam.

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other).  (Q. 49:13) 

“In Islam, birthdays are not considered `eid (a festival) like `Eidul-Fitr or `Eidul-Adha, because `eidshave conditions and guidelines such as not being allowed to fast during the days of Eid. Therefore, birthdays are simply occasions of a person’s date of birth and are a matter of culture. If a person wants to commemorate his/her date of birth, then he/she may do so, especially if he/she takes the opportunity to reflect on the past and pledge to be better during the following year. However, to make the birthday an important occasion is not recommended or encouraged.” (From Islamonline, which abridged it from islamicity)

Still, many of my friends don’t believe in celebrating birthdays.  And that is their right and I applaud them for shedding one more part of the dunya.  I recognize my birthday.  I don’t know if I should have balloons and a party (presents and cake are always accepted, for any occasion).  I don’t know if I will throw my kids parties.  But recognizing that I was born on a certain day, that my mother labored on that day and brought me into this world, that Allah created me for this world:  that makes me thankful. 

The Prophet (saw) used to celebrate his birth by fasting.

Muslim reports on the authority of Qatadah Al-Ansari that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), was asked about fasting on Monday and he replied: “It is the day on which I was born and on which I received the Divine Revelation”.

And maybe that is a good example for us.  

Anyway, Happy Birthday Audra. 🙂


P.S. Clowns are DEFINITELY haraam.  Just say no to clowns. 


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Wise Words

For the past few weeks I have been staying with a very wise, and beautiful woman named Mary. She has had an incredible range of experiences in her life, and has somehow managed to become a very spiritual, kind of enlightened person. Although she has her own struggles she has for many years been helping people to find direction in their lives and careers.

I just had a very thoughtful discussion with her and she said something that resonated very strongly with me that I thought I’d share:


“What you long for and desire is God’s way of telling you what it is you need to do.”



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Gettin’ it started

This post marks the official beginning of our blog. Expect changes and randomness, and give us some ideas if you’d like 🙂 But just to get things started we’ll give you some background info on us:

Audra: After completing my undergrad at Penn State in Spring 2007, I moved to Los Angeles, California where I’m still figuring out life, work, and everything else. I converted to Islam over 3 years ago and am still learning, still exploring.

Asiyah: Also graduated in May ’07. I live in Charm City, work in public health and am constantly contemplating my next move. I converted to Islam a little over 4 years ago and I’ve discovered that the more I know, the more I know I don’t know anything. I also can’t decide on the best way to spell Asiah/Asiyah/Aasiyah.

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